A gift for a deceased family member?
October 11th, 2009 Posted by: admin
Every 2 weeks my mother and I go to a small cemetary where her parents are laid to rest. We clean up the area around their headstones and plant new flowers and water the ones already planted. This helps my mother in her time of grief. Every Christmas my mother puts out the small Christmas tree that lights up at night…(my Grandmother loved Christmas). I always find something small to put at their gravesite… maybe because I am always use to them being their at Christmas and I have always given them small trinkets. I have given sea shells that I found at the beach one year and projects my kids worked on at school but this year I am at a loss. I think it is because I am moving on…. even though losing them both in the last few years has hurt me terribly. I am wanting to do something different this year. Maybe donate to the Cancer Society… Maybe pay more tribute to them that way???? This is a very touchy subject and I would like only serious suggestions here. Please be kind and leave an honest suggestion…
By: texaslady78
By: texaslady78
October 11th, 2009 at 16:55
One gesture I have liked is a gift to the public library. You can ask them to put a book plate in books that your money paid for, that says the book was purchased for the library in memory of the person you are honoring.
October 11th, 2009 at 21:00
I think donating to a charity is a wonderful idea, and one your grandparents would love. It’s double good because you are doing something to remember your loved ones, but also helping other loved ones that might need it.
October 12th, 2009 at 13:14
I think your donation to the Cancer Society is a great idea. Maybe put a cancer pin or something of the sort at their graves, in keeping with the tradition of giving a small gift. When you donate, you’re giving a gift to those who are suffering and those who suffered. I’m sorry for your loss, it’s hard. You’re doing a good thing.
October 14th, 2009 at 04:41
You could design a symbol on a piece of card or paper, which can remind you of them and be a symbol of your relationship.
You could make a scrapbook, or a collection of pics of you and your family.
You could leave flowers, or jewellery made from flowers.
If you still have any, something precious to them, or a picture of the two of them together. You can photocopy pictures if you don’t want to get rid of the original.
You can write a story dedicated to them.
These are a few ideas…If I think of any more, I’ll edit.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and have a great Christmas.
A donation is also a great idea - maybe you could buy some cancer research t-shirts and teddy bears to put by their headstones.
October 15th, 2009 at 16:43
Donating in memory of is always a good choice. Choose what ever the persons love was whether it was animals, childrens hospital or whatever. Peace
October 18th, 2009 at 14:38
I have also lost loved ones. My Grandparents, Father, 1 son and 2 husbands.
I don’t do anything. what is the point really. they are gone from this life, but I believe still with us in some way.
Every time I go to the cemetery, I cry, can’t help it.
The pain is always there.
I like to believe I have Angels on my shoulder to keep me safe.
when I have left things at the cemetery, they have been stolen.
Some people just don’t care.
A donation to a worthy charity would be the best in my opinion.
October 20th, 2009 at 18:36
I’m so sorry, I can relate. I lost my grandmother a few years back and it still hurts my heart just to think about her, but I have the memories that will last forever. When I go to her grave I like to leave little things that remind me of her. Like your grandmother, my grandma looooved christmas, so during the holidays i like to leave a snow globe and a picture of the family decorating the tree(witch she loved watching us do every year) or baking christmas cookies, something holiday-ish.
I hope you find what your looking for.
Best wishes to you and your family.
October 22nd, 2009 at 15:41
My dad and i went to my grandfathers grave stone with my sisters when my grandmother died. We brought the wreath that was on top of her coffin. Because she was cremated we wanted to bring them closer together the day of her funeral. I agree that it does bring you closer to you passed relatives and it nice to hear that you pay your respects with so much care, devotion and love.
How about a photo of your family in a christmas themed photo frame to place beside some flowers or near their names.
Or maybe a christmas wreath?
I also like your suggestion of a donation, doing that in their honor or as a token to their memory sounds like a it truly came from the heart.
October 25th, 2009 at 19:40
Possibly have a star named after them, like a family name?
That way its always there, and leave the record under the tree
Can you try answering mine?
October 28th, 2009 at 17:36
A great gift Idea for any age or gender is to find or write a poem, or favorite music lyrics, type it up and print it out on nice paper, then burn the edges, and put it in a nice picture frame. Its personal, sincere, and beautiful.. Hope that helps.. Remember a gift from the heart means more than anything money can buy. “Love Each Day”